Without a doubt, I am a dreamer. I love to imagine all the ways something could happen. Like how a super cute guy with an accent (why not?) would see me from across a crowded room and ask me to dance (obviously, this dream is before I met Ricky), or how I’d look in a ‘black-tie worthy fashion masterpiece’ inspired by Audrey Hepburn (because I’m invited to soo many galas)… So, yeah, I dream. I dream a lot.
But my dreams have gotten me in a lot of trouble too. My problem was that my dreams were not rooted in reality and void of God. Or more simply put, my dreams were only about me. And I’ve learned that when dreams are solely self-focused, they are disappoint bombs waiting to explode.
I wish someone had let me in on these three tips before I went off to college – where most of my dreams were hatched. It would have saved a dreamer like me from being desperately disappointed when my dreams did not match up with my expectations or reality.
1. Everyone will let you down.
That’s a little harsh, right? But it’s true. We’re all broken, sinful little messes that can create a mountain of chaos at a moments notice. So when we place our complete trust in other broken people, we shouldn’t be shocked when they fail us. The beauty of accepting others faults is that it helps to accept our own too. In our friendships and our dating relationships, we can’t expect others to be everything to us – they will surely buckle under the pressure. God is the only one we can trust and count on for that.
Scripture: “It is better to take refuge in the Lord than to put confidence in man”, Psalms 118:8.
2. Your dreams will likely be shattered or rearranged.
We have dreams but God has plans. His plans are and will always be better than anything we can imagine. No amount of dreaming can compare to the plans God has in store for you. So don’t be surprised when your dreams are totally shattered beyond recognition or just rearranged a bit. And remember that dreams are a great starting place, but they are not the destination and often times, not even the roadmap.
Scripture: “For I know the plans I have for you says the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope”, Jeremiah 29:11-12.
3. God alone. Only God can give you the peace, joy and happiness you seek.
It took me years to put this statement into practice and I’m still working on it. No amount of money, status, popularity or relationship can compare to the happiness God wants to give you. The happiness God has planned for you is beyond your degree, friendships or aspirations – but He does use them all to bring you to His plan for you. God actively wants you to be happy – all we have to do is to be still and let Him do what He does best (hint: His best is loving you).
Scripture: “Fear not, stand firm, and see the salvation of the Lord, which he will work for you today…The Lord will fight for you, and you have only to be still”, Exodus 14: 13-14.
God has blessed us with a thinking brain and, especially for dreamers, a lively imagination. Dreams are good but they are best when they are grounded in God’s love and plan for us. So don’t give up on your dreams, just dream with God instead of without Him.