The Fear of Being Forgotten

One of our greatest fears is feeling forgotten; the desire to be remembered, to be included is really a question of, “Do they love me?”.

The poverty of being unwanted, unloved and uncared for is the greatest poverty. We must start in our own homes to remedy this kind of poverty. –Mother Teresa

Is the fear of being forgotten behind the motivation of our social interactions? Do we find ourselves frivolously posting on social media platforms in an effort to not be forgotten?

I find myself fighting this fear as well. I am pregnant with baby#3 and there is a temptation, a fear, that wants me to believe that if I don’t do this/that people will forget about me or my ministry will suffer.

The feeling of being forgotten is a fear and one that can rush us into making decisions before we are ready. But we must remember that fear is not from God. Fear will make you feel that you have to DO something. The opposite of fear is love – and while love compels us to act on the good, it also allows you to just BE. And love does not forget.

Whatever inspires the fear of being forgotten, God speaks truth into that dust of fear and regardless if the fear comes from tragedy, drama, our own thoughts, or the thoughts of others – God will never forget us or abandon us. For He says:

  1. Cast your anxieties on him, for he cares about you. (1 Peter 5:7)

  2. It is the Lord who goes before you. He will be with you; he will not fail you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed. (Deut. 31:8)

  3. Are not five sparrows sold for two pennies? And not one of them is forgotten by God. Why, even the hairs on your head are all numbered. Fear not; you are of more value than many sparrows. (Luke 12:6-7)

  4. If God is for us, who is against us? He who did not spare his own Son but gave him up for us all, will he not also give us all things with him? Who shall bring any charge against God’s elect? It is God who justifies; who is to condemn? Is it Christ Jesus who died, yes, who was raised from the dead, who is at the right hand of God, who indeed intercedes for us? Who shall separate us from the love of Christ?  (Romans 8:31-35)

  5. For God did not give us a spirit of fear but a spirit of power and love and self control. (2 Tim. 1:7)


Today, on this Holy Saturday of the Easter Triduum, I can imagine the human nature of Jesus asking the same question – Will they remember? Will they forget me? We can unite our fears of being forgotten to Christ, especially on this holy day when the tomb was empty and the earth sat in silence awaiting the Resurrection. The abundant life Christ calls us to is a life that depends on us knowing and accepting the love and mercy of God.

As we await the Resurrection of Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, I pray we all can shed the fear of being forgotten. Christ has assured us that He will never forget us, for He has said, “I will never fail you nor forsake you.” (Heb.13:5)



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